Steps to Love Frequently Asked Questions

A - Sure you can, if you want to spend 3 long minutes (that will feel like they’re stretching into eternity) swaying side to side awkwardly as 100+ pairs of eyes watch you, feeling like you’re under a microscope, wondering when it will finally end?

OR, your first dance can be “the most special experience of my life…” and “truly the highlight of the wedding”, “I’ve never been so happy as when I danced with my husband” (actual texts we received from clients after their wedding day). 

Imagine … feeling super comfortable, confident and connected to your beloved as you step out on the dance floor. Those 3+ minutes pass by in an ecstatic blur, as your spotlight moment (the only time on your wedding day it’s really just the two of you) becomes an iconic experience you will cherish for the rest of your days together. (And get fantastic pics and video to prove it!) 

Plus, by investing the time to create your dance together, you will experience what 75% of our couples call “the best part of the wedding planning process”. Through Steps to Love’s signature process, you will have fun, learn how to harmonize together as a team, and become more deeply bonded, looking forward to each session as your date night, relieving the stress leading up to the wedding.

A - We feel you! Planning a wedding brings a lot of extra work to your already busy lives. The cool thing is we hear all the time how much our couples look forward to their dance sessions, and how they relieve the stress of wedding planning and become a cherished date night.

We will work with your schedule to find the best times for you. We are available Monday - Thursday afternoons and evenings, and Saturdays. Often couples who live a bit farther away (we have clients come from all over the San Francisco Bay Area, and even Sacramento) like to book a “double session”, to give them more time with less travel. We are flexible! 

Or, if you’re really pressed for time, and want to experience the most deluxe experience possible, book your Wedding Dance Experience VIP and we will create your dance in one day, while feeding you delicious food and guiding you through a deeply emotional bonding process.

“Throughout the entire experience, we were always excited and eager for our next session - it NEVER felt like a chore and always felt like one step closer to building the PERFECT dance that embodied who we are individually, and collectively as a couple.” —Jordan H.

A - Absolutely! 95% of our clients have no dance experience, and at least half of them claim to have two left feet! It’s really no problem. We will meet you right at your level, no matter what that is. We are experts in making it fun, non-intimidating, and totally possible for you to learn to dance together. Trust us, you’re going to enjoy yourselves! 

When you say yes to preparing for your wedding dance with Steps to Love™, you are investing in

“The best part of the wedding planning process” (aka “date night” and “stress relief”). 

Creating a deeper bond in your relationship.

More intimacy and better sex! (oh yes)

Creating absolutely beautiful memories together that you will cherish forever. 

A - OMG we totally get it! Of course it feels intimidating. But we’re here for you! After decades of performance and production experience, we know what it takes to shine “onstage”.

That’s why you’re not only learning how to dance with Steps to Love - we’re also providing you with comprehensive coaching, guidance and your own customized plan to make your wedding day dance floor moment the most stress free and successful it can be!

This includes talking you through all the many important but overlooked details like reception timeline (what’s happening right before and right after your first dance?), how what your wearing affects your dance, where your guests will be watching from, the dance floor location, how to communicate with your vendors (DJ/band, photographer, etc.) and more.

We’ll provide you with your own customized plan so everything runs smoothly on your wedding day, and all you have to do is show up, relax, smile and enjoy dancing with your beloved!

A - We understand. Deciding to say yes to this process might feel a little intimidating (after all, you’ve probably never taken a dance lesson before, or maybe you tried a group class where they kept making you rotate partners - yikes!). We’d love to get to know you both, and answer any questions you may have on a complimentary consultation call. You can book your time here!

A - Four to six months in advance is best. Even earlier if possible. If you wait until a month or two before your wedding (when it dawns on you that you’re going to need help dancing in front of all those guests), we may not be able to accommodate you. We book up fast!

So don’t wait. Book in advance to secure your space. We can schedule your lessons closer to your wedding date. But by planning ahead, you will be assured a spot on our roster.

Which means: an amazing experience with your beloved leading up to your wedding day, and an incredible first dance guests will be taking about for years to come!

A - Some couples have that one special song they love, and it’s an easy choice. Some couples need a little help, and that’s totally okay. We’re here for you! Take a look at our blog post here to give you some ideas. And if you have a few song options you’re trying to decide between, reach out to us and we can give you our expert guidance as to which would work best for your perfect first dance.

Don’t want to decide between your favorites? Want it all? We can create a fabulous medley just for you that is a combo of a few different songs. Check out our Wowza package for all the details.

A - Nope! If you have booked a custom package (The Basic but Lovely, The Wowza, the Deluxe or the Wedding Dance Experience VIP), we will create your custom choreography on the spot! 

This is a truly magical experience that involves letting our in-the-moment creative juices flow, with both of YOU as our inspiration! 

You will be privy to our brilliant coaches crafting unique steps on YOU in a never-seen-before combination, and you will marvel at the wonder of the creative process in motion (with YOU as its STARS). 

We hear over and over again from our clients how non-intimidating and interesting and FUN the whole process is. 

We absolutely LOVE what we do, and we have an abiding PASSION to celebrate your unique love story through our signature Steps to Love™️ process. 

A - We understand wedding costs can really add up, and that budgets can be a limiting factor even when the desire to invest in your epic first dance experience is there.

We can help by offering a Buy Now, Pay Later with 0% financing option for all packages! Find out more here.

A - Awesome! We can’t wait to work with you! Email us at support@erinparsleydance.com or text/call us at 415-903-0359 and we’ll get you set up.

We’ll email you an agreement with all the details laid out for you to e-sign, and you will pay a deposit of $495 (regardless of which package you choose) or use the Buy Now, Pay Later with 0% financing option for all packages! Find out more here.

As soon as you sign and pay, we will work with you to get your sessions scheduled (either the first one, or all of them if you choose).

You'll receive email confirmation of each session with time and location info, which you can add right into your calendar (nifty technology!).

You'll receive reminders of your sessions 24 hours in advance by email, and one via text a few hours before. (We strive to make it as easy and clear as possible for you!)

You’ll be responsible for paying the balance by the second session. (We sometimes offer payment plans so if the payment schedule is an issue, reach out to us and we’ll see what we can do.)

A - For our first session, we won’t be starting with choreography. We’ll be asking you some questions about your reception timeline, the size/location of the dance floor, and about your shoes and dress, etc., to help me craft the best plan for your dance.

And then we’ll introduce you to the foundational aspects of dancing together, and will teach you a basic step to practice at home that is appropriate for the song you have chosen.

In the second session, we will start creating your custom choreography!

A - You can wear anything you are comfortable with. Including your shoes (most people wear sneakers!). But… we do recommend brides (especially), bring their wedding shoes, or a pair that is very similar to what their shoes will be (such as heel height and type) to practice in by the 3rd or 4th session.

A - We will meet in a gorgeous historical church in the Twin Peaks area of San Francisco, with stained glass windows and a vista of green trees through the wall to wall windows. It really is an inspiring space! (And, bonus!, we'll provide you with free parking in our secure lot).

A - Nope! We will ease you into learning choreography, and complicated isn’t on the agenda (unless you’re ready to put in the extra work and book an upgraded, non-Basic package - then we can totally get those fancy feet flying)!